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Get over it: Some black men like white women
Every time a brother walks hand-in-hand with a white woman we have some type of psychological diagnosis for him.
By: Danielle Kwateng | Madam Noire
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The inferiority complex. Colorism. He wants a trophy wife. Issues with his momma. Acting ‘”white.” Ego builder. False sense of self-worth. Rejection of his heritage. Acceptance from white society. “Doormat mentality” of women.
Every time a brother walks hand-in-hand with a white woman we have some type of psychological diagnosis for him. At least one sister puts her nose up in disgust and another cuts her eyes. On the surface, the anger comes from him looking like a sell-out or choosing her as a trophy piece. “If these were slavery times, she wouldn’t dare been seen with him,” I’ve heard friends say.
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Jill Scott received attention from her commentary about black men with white women in her Essence piece a few months ago. “We reflect on this awful past and recall that if a black man even looked at a white woman, he would have been lynched, beaten, jailed or shot to death,” she said. “In the midst of this, black women and black men struggled together, mourned together, starved together, braved the hoses and vicious police dogs and died untimely on southern back roads together. These harsh truths lead to what we really feel when we see a seemingly together brother with a Caucasian woman and their children. That feeling is betrayed.”
As insightful madames, we have two choices: we can dig into the issue as deeply as Scott did, or resolve just a few basic questions. One, is it that we feel black men are choosing to be with white women — or purposely rejecting black women? And if they’re rejecting us, does it mean we have less worth to them or maybe we did something wrong? Or are we simply jealous?
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Sometimes it's just jealousy AND hypocrisy I mean I never hear black female celebrities talking crap for being with white men or anyone calling them a 'sell-out' or saying they are 'sleeping with the enemy' .Which black males could say is WAY more justified with black woment han with black men and they don't even pick a HOT guy most of the time at least most black men hook up with good-looking white women. I saw Zoe Saldana's finace and he is butt ugly but black women won't give her crap about it or whine about how 'poor' he is and just out for money. Like when black women defended Diana Ross marrying that prince please not ALL of her white husbands were rich I do recall a story one of them screwed her finaces over ROYALLY. It's not my place to judge who dates who but black women are very one sided when it comes to famous black people dating outside the race.
I like women, black, white, brown, asian, whatever.
When I was younger, to be completely honest, I got a little frustrated whenever I'd see a black woman with a white dude, and being a bit of an introspective guy, I wondered why my friends patted me on the back when I'd bring home a white girl.
I realized that I was being racist. It really is difficult, to overcome it and realize that everyone's motives are different, that I don't know the reasons behind why whatever couple is together, and that it was as wrong judging them as it would be for them to judge me.
It was a hard row, but I came up and decided that just not caring was the way to go.
In my city though, the tendency is that handsome black men such as myself, tend to go for white women as trophies, and the white women they go for are generally obese white trash. Which is something I guess I'll never understand.